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You guys know I’ve been a little down in the dumps lately. But I’ve had some good luck lately. A lovely card from an old friend complimenting me on my ability to help her tap into her true self. Attending a Spelman College graduation event and leaving with a greater sense of sisterhood and community. Overhearing (yes, I was being nosey I’ll admit it) a lady – fresh from her chemo treatment – discuss how the day of chemo she felt fine and even energized (it’s the day after when she has to explain to her son why mommy is tired.) Finally being able to repay the random act of kindness Jamison and I received when parking – on the street, for free – for the Hawks Round 1, Game 1 playoffs game. I was in line at Costco buying a slice of pepperoni pizza – one of my favorite lunches ever but almost 800 calories – and the lady in front of me had no cash. Since she was obviously inexperienced in the cash-only ways of the Costco snack bar, I offered to pay for her caesar salad, which I’m sure would have been a WAY healthier option for me too.
Either way, all these little things added up to feeling truly jazzed about my life. A few random events took me off course, but it’s really important for me to find a better way to keep things in perspective when they go awry. These are the things I must remind myself of when times get hard… Because all those little good things can somehow matter more than a few bad things.
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As you guys know, writing clearlyfabulous is something I have done and enjoyed for about 2.5 years now. I found myself in quite a funk beginning a couple of months back. One of the many things I stopped focusing on during this time was writing clearlyfabulous.
I tried everything I could to get back in the swing of things, but I am still struggling a bit. I lost my way as it relates to food, exercise, shopping, cocktails. I tried every way possible to medicate myself against the depression and anxiety I found myself swirling in. I have decided to take a more proactive approach going forward:
- Re-focus on diet and exercise – not only have I gained about 10 pounds over my comfortable fluctuation range but I have been recently diagnosed with high cholesterol and high blood pressure. This means I am going to be taking some very aggressive measures in the way of diet and exercise. I now take 4 prescription meds each morning and it’s a bit too much for me to handle. Yes, I am taking my meds, but I do NOT like it. So I am going to do whatever it takes to get off of them. I am beginning the Mediterranean Diet, which will be tricky for me due to my natural beef-loving Nebraskan self. But I brainstormed ideas yesterday. I will exercise 4-6 times per week, with an increased focus on resistance training.
- Stay out of debt – By not writing, you guys missed out on a major milestone back in March. I paid off all of my credit card debt. Finally. Now I need to stay out of debt. I am trying to figure out which cards to cancel without hurting my credit score. I am also trying to maximize reward points while only spending cash on essential items.
- Focus on investing and saving – Now that I have learned to live on less and shop way less, I want to refocus my efforts on stocking my emergency fund and investing more in my 401K and IRA. I also want to open a Roth IRA too.
- Continue my focus on finding pleasure in ways other than acquiring things – This does not mean I will never shop, but it means my joy will not come from shopping and I will continue to focus on keeping my wardrobe and home decor lean.
- Begin therapy to get to the bottom of the anxiety and depression – I have a sneaking suspicion that my recent health woes are connected to these issues as well. I need to deal with some unresolved issues, move on, forgive. I was at a conference earlier this month. The keynote speaker presented this one slide that read: “The happiest people are those who give. The happiest people are those who forgive. The least happy people are those who hold grudges.” I was so inspired by this – I need to learn to forgive and deal with issues, rather than placing my skeletons in the closet. I suspect I am beginning to run out of room. I need to actively deal with my father’s death last year. I have to free myself from all the things that are holding me back from happiness.
I also owe you guys a giant blog post featuring all the things I’ve bought in the last two or so months. And a post on the wonderful gifts I’ve gotten for my upcoming birthday (one and a half weeks). I will also start re-focusing on my regular Wednesday and Friday posts along with featuring some “What I’m Rocking” posts too. I may also share any particularly delish plant-based meals I create.
Thanks for sticking with me. I can’t wait to be back to my old self.
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I just wanted to take a moment to apologize for my way lame accidental blogcation. With recovering from the holidays, recovering from oral surgery, prepping for Paris, going to Paris and getting back in the swing of things since returning from Paris on 1/31, I have been M.I.A.
This weekend I vow to FINALLY post my Savannah shopping finds and my Paris shopping finds and stories. I also plan to get a head start on next week’s regular posts “Girl Crush Wednesday” and “Blow Your Paycheck Friday” too. I am looking forward to sharing my travel plans for summer and fall and showing you my shopping finds (hopefully more often, as I am THIS close to paying off all the credit card debt and hoping for a big, fat bonus next month!) I know I owe you some cute “What I’m Rocking” photos too. I gotta get back to making those a priority too.
And I just want you to know that I realized I do MISS this creative-ish outlet, I miss sharing my voice. And I am hoping to come back strong very, very soon. Thanks for sticking with me. I love knowing that you are out there. 🙂
I feel like I haven’t hung out with Amy in forever. This past Saturday we got started nice early and managed to accomplish a lot between 10 AM and 7:30 PM:
- “Breakfast” beer (after biscuits and sausage of course)
- Goodwill shopping (see below for details)
- Shopping for sunflower seed pie ingredients (like pecan pie but with sunflower seeds instead – and she so graciously volunteered to make it for me after I brought it up)
- More beer while waiting for Amy’s haircut
- Haircut for Amy
- Lunch at Eduardo’s Mexican Grill on Lavista Rd. (you must go there if you live in ATL, the food was superb)
- Cocktails and gossip mag reading while watching Amy’s Goodwill fashion show (you MUST see the blue dress)
- Sunflower seed pie eating and socializing with neighbors
- A little pasta dinner before I headed back home
Didn’t we do a LOT? And I know you are thinking I “slipped in” the shopping, but you will be proud to know that all except one item is in my “no limit/no exclusions” category*. Here is what I scored for $31.10:
Black sequined top – $4.97
Multicolored sequin top – $4.97
Black satin peplum jacket – $5.97 (didn’t photograph well but so flattering, very nippy at the waist)
Red embellished blazer (so Dallas) – $5.97
Red clutch – $5.75
Two red and gold trays for my dressing room – $.77 each
*Items that I collect are excluded from the shopping rules. This includes vintage jewelry, vintage trays, vintage furs, all things sequined/embellished, vintage leather jackets… well, you get the hint. A lot of vintage things that are special – especially to me.
The fact that I could not keep my own “no shopping” promise (details coming soon) to myself made me batty. So batty (since when do I say the word, “batty” BTW?) that I had to do some serious brainstorming with Jory on the situation while we drove to Nashville for a business trip last month.
Why do I love buying things so much? How can I channel that desire and joy to something else? So that is my mission: to find less joy in the act of acquisition. And it’s gonna be tricky because I adore the act of hunting and finding and bringing things home and telling the story of where I got and who I was with and how I was feeling and how much (little) it cost…
What can I do help me meet my own goal? Well, Jory helped me come up with some ideas to help set me up for success. It turns out that I think I can accomplish my goal with two basic rules:
- One item in, one item out*
- No shopping for fun unless traveling
How will I measure my success? I plan to photograph my entire wardrobe (using the iPhone app My Closet – yes, I did finally join the iPhone generation). I need to count the total number of items in my wardrobe to ensure I can appropriately determine which item(s) should be “out” after acquiring a new piece.
I also need to identify acquisition triggers, which are plentiful for me. One quick fix was to begin to delete all those shopping emails. I also have to avoid random trips to the mall (particularly at lunch) for no reason. Shopping needs to become about getting a particular thing that I need, not a “fun” activity. I also need to find different things to do when my friends come in town to visit – maybe I can get more serious about consulting others when they need new pieces…
Either way, this is bound to be a huge challenge for me, so remind me to keep you guys posted.
*Excludes the items I collect like vintage jewelry and furs.
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First off, let me say that I KNOW I have been totally off the grid lately. Things at work are crazy. So, this is not a big “return” blog but a “I know that I really, really suck right now” blog. I will have to share ALL the things I’ve bought after my declaration to not buy a damn thing very soon. (Spoiler alert: vintage leathers in Pittsburgh)
I am hoping that I can spend a few hours this weekend sharing the tales of my finds.
This month I have decided to challenge myself (thanks to Jory) to wear a different pair of shoes ever day (at least every work day). Here is today’s pick:
I scored these Vince Camuto lace-up leather cognac oxfords at DSW on clearance back in 2009, I think. And this is the SECOND time I’ve worn them. And they are fab. Not the most comfy but not terrible. I need some non-slip cushions to stop my foot from sliding forward in these. Payless BOGO, baby!